Men like women. We find them pleasing to the eye. We enjoy their company in measured doses. And sex is a pleasant diversion from the business of slaying dragons.
Every young man attempts to learn the secrets of how to have more sex with more women. And not just young men. Older men who have been forced to take the red pill also seek to reconcile how they were raised to treat women… with how things worked out for them in real life.
The PUA ‘community’ will tell you that “you gotta be alpha.” Which is true, but precisely what does that mean? We will explore this another time.
Asking women for dating advice will get you nothing but saccharine platitudes about ‘being yourself,’ and developing all the qualities that she (whomever you are talking to) finds attractive.
The first thing you must understand is that attraction is NOT arousal. A woman is ‘attracted’ to a man who buys her flowers and candy, massages her feet, and dotes on her. But a woman is ‘aroused’ by a man who is a real man, who does not put her first, and is not phased by her irrationality.
‘Aroused’ gets you laid. ‘Attracted’ gets you a weepy phone call when the man who aroused her cheats on her.
If you follow the advice peddled by women, you will become a simpering loser. An emotional tampon, and nothing more than an object of derision.
Ignore anything that women tell you about “how to get the girl.”
Even among the PUA community it is common to tell a man that interacting with women, he is trying to “make a sale.” Ergo, he should make sure to package and present himself in a stylish manner.
This is an incorrect assumption. In fact, women are the product. The evidence is all around us: L’Oreal, Revlon, CoverGirl, Spanx, etc.
All these products have one purpose: to present the product in the best possible light. Because every woman is a silent carnival barker seeking a “buyer” for her wares.
This interaction has been going on for millennia. A woman seeks the protection of a man, and a man seeks a woman for companionship and offspring.
Gentlemen, YOU are that buyer. It is YOU who are the prize. And in the sexual marketplace, you must seek the best “bang for your buck” as it were.
Your first mission, is to get into the right mindset. Imagine a director on the set of a movie, explaining what he wants from the actor. First, he gives him the context of the world in which he is operating. Then he tells him what persona he is trying to portray.
You must establish such a “frame” from which you view and interact with the world.
Your frame is all-important. So much so that nature has given women the innate ability to sniff out a fake.
If you walk into a Mercedes dealership looking like a hobo… unless you are a recognizable celebrity, you will likely not get the attention of the sales staff. Thus, it is important that you act, and look like a credible buyer. You must BE someone who can actually shop there. But buyer you are, and never forget that.
If you have trouble, or just need a bit of a push, I recommend you start with the following:
Hypnotica is the undisputed master of helping men become more confident. I recommend starting with “The Sphinx of Imagination” (2012).
“Personal Ecology: The Complete Self Esteem Program” by Dr. Lloyd Glouberman of Hypno Peripheral Processing is the first of their titles I would start with.
“Soaring Self Confidence” available from InnerTalk. Unlike the previous titles, this one is a subliminal recording. I recommend you spend some time on the InnerTalk website, reviewing the supporting documentation.
Go forth and conquer what you can.